We all have dreams,as well as aspirations, desires,wants,needs a few but to mention and all these if we can't have or don't have the means to get them at immediate,we register in our unconscious mind that there was/is a want,dream,etc that hasn't gained gratification ,and you know one funny thing about the unconscious mind is that it comes to play unconsciously,meaning you feel you are giving all you have but yet you still aint getting it right. A typical example is after suffering a heart break you have trust issues and most times when you try to get on in another relationship you find yourself slipping off and really hard to trust your partner for no reason that is what the unconscious mind does to us, when we repress the pains of being heart broken to the unconscious mind. A couple of times I had to deal with people that have confined themselves in these obsessed state of mind that leaves them at the mercy of every situation and relationship. The edge as stated above is simply talking about breakups,losing out,loss of interest etc for no just reason in a relationship even after you have given it the best fight you've got it still couldn't stand the test of time. Why the breakup?,Why didn't it work?.when faced with such questions we all have our reasons as crazy as it sounds,some guys would say the reason for their breakup is because she forgot to add salt in the food she prepared.,some ladies would say he didn't call to say goodnight. Am not writing those reason off but am trying to come in from a more realistic end if those reasons are worthy of breakups?NO.
Now this is the salient truth that has really hampered /hindered per say a used to be good relationship. As we grow old we build this uncompromising expectations of what our partner should look like,how our partner should act and what we want in a relationship,yes I said uncompromising because these expectation don't go away rather we often time try to bend them as a result of greed,selfishness,pains,aggression etc.(Example: a lady has built these expectations that I want a tall,fair, and handsome guy for a relationship but along the line a dark,popular,and averaged height dude shows up you start considering his popularity even though he isn't tall nor fair,now that's greed. You suffering a heart break and a fat dark dude shows up you begin to reconsider,that's pains etc.)
When we give into these pressures it often hard to fit in and accept the fact that you are working against your expectations but it takes a lot from you to turn those expectations off and in most cases when we cant turn it off we start experiencing cracks at every little thing our partner does,that's the utmost reason after a breakups we judge ourselves and make statements like "gosh was I really dating this short guy how come",was I really kissing those ugly lips dem" LOL. That's because the suppressed uncompromising expectations came out in full.
Why am I always at the edge?why do I easily get fed up in a relationship?why do I give up so easily even when I don't wish to?why does his/her actions irritate me?why cant I just love him/her the way he/she loves me?etc. All these question would have cut across the heart so many times after which we don't get good answers. Now this could be the reason,our uncompromising expectations works in two ways it either works on you or in you(like for or against). Working on you simply means your partner has these uncompromising expectations about what his/her partner should look like,be and act like,so while you are locked down in your love affair giving him/her all you've got yet he/she doesn't give you the real appreciation,making you feel you aint doing enough,makes you hate your self,makes you feel you not trying at all,that's how it works on you and talking about when it works in you,you try as much as you can to love or reciprocate what you get from your partner but at the end you still feel this insatiable depth inside you when you are in your closet. Like you not just getting enough,you wish to appreciate your partner for the love he/she showers on you but you not just finding the mood even when you get it,it barely last for a while. There are these desires,wants,uncompromising expectations that you house in you and its not getting its connect. Most time we play along but for how long? You can really help the situation,you can make your relationship that perfect turn around but firstly you must know how to conquer your uncompromising desires and that's why we are here to help you make the best of you,add up and talk to us today for possible answers and mind blowing solutions.
Please note: this write up is open to contributions and suggestions incase we missed out.
Now this is the salient truth that has really hampered /hindered per say a used to be good relationship. As we grow old we build this uncompromising expectations of what our partner should look like,how our partner should act and what we want in a relationship,yes I said uncompromising because these expectation don't go away rather we often time try to bend them as a result of greed,selfishness,pains,aggression etc.(Example: a lady has built these expectations that I want a tall,fair, and handsome guy for a relationship but along the line a dark,popular,and averaged height dude shows up you start considering his popularity even though he isn't tall nor fair,now that's greed. You suffering a heart break and a fat dark dude shows up you begin to reconsider,that's pains etc.)
When we give into these pressures it often hard to fit in and accept the fact that you are working against your expectations but it takes a lot from you to turn those expectations off and in most cases when we cant turn it off we start experiencing cracks at every little thing our partner does,that's the utmost reason after a breakups we judge ourselves and make statements like "gosh was I really dating this short guy how come",was I really kissing those ugly lips dem" LOL. That's because the suppressed uncompromising expectations came out in full.
Why am I always at the edge?why do I easily get fed up in a relationship?why do I give up so easily even when I don't wish to?why does his/her actions irritate me?why cant I just love him/her the way he/she loves me?etc. All these question would have cut across the heart so many times after which we don't get good answers. Now this could be the reason,our uncompromising expectations works in two ways it either works on you or in you(like for or against). Working on you simply means your partner has these uncompromising expectations about what his/her partner should look like,be and act like,so while you are locked down in your love affair giving him/her all you've got yet he/she doesn't give you the real appreciation,making you feel you aint doing enough,makes you hate your self,makes you feel you not trying at all,that's how it works on you and talking about when it works in you,you try as much as you can to love or reciprocate what you get from your partner but at the end you still feel this insatiable depth inside you when you are in your closet. Like you not just getting enough,you wish to appreciate your partner for the love he/she showers on you but you not just finding the mood even when you get it,it barely last for a while. There are these desires,wants,uncompromising expectations that you house in you and its not getting its connect. Most time we play along but for how long? You can really help the situation,you can make your relationship that perfect turn around but firstly you must know how to conquer your uncompromising desires and that's why we are here to help you make the best of you,add up and talk to us today for possible answers and mind blowing solutions.
Please note: this write up is open to contributions and suggestions incase we missed out.
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