THE FAUX MAN.......... PART 1

 

     THE FAUX MAN
                      PART 1
    The faux man is set to be a controversial writeup that is set to expose or address some under lining issues 70% of men go to bed with every night,it goes further to talk about sexual disorder/dysfunction a lot of man carry around but won't want to tell. Although sometimes a difficult and embarrassing subject to speak about is that which concerns sexual problems/issues and fears of sexuality cause many Men and Women a great deal of anxiety . Relationships can suffer or never start due to sexual problems.

    The disorders that makes it impossible / difficult for an individual to have or enjoy sexual intercourse,it is very distorted to those who experience them and often leads to sexual frustration,guilt about failure,loss of self-esteem and inter-personal problems. with the other partner is known as Sexual dysfuntions. Health conditions such as diabetes, hypertension and depression can also cause sexual dysfunction,but in younger men this is not common hence psychological problems are the main causes for sexual dysfunction in young men. More than often sexual symptoms are caused or made worst by high levels of anxiety. We may or may not recognise that this is happening as  the 'feelings' are so familiar they are considered to be idiosyncrasies or things we are 'silly' about. An all prevailing attitude towards ourselves and the world we live in can be unhelpful, limiting or even negative due to these anxieties.

    So the question now is what are some of the common sexual problems ?Some Common male sexual problems includes
•  Premature Ejaculation: Premature ejaculation is the inability to maintain or keep an intercourse steady enough for your partner to attain orgasm. Ejecting semen from the penis, usually accompanied by orgasm occurring sooner than a man wishes during sexual activity or before the sexual feeling peaks is known as premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation is characterized by a lack of voluntary control over ejaculation that interferes with optimal sexual or psychological well-being in either partner,this could also be referred to as rapid ejaculation,it typically occurs before or shortly after penetration during sexual intercourse which brings us the question what are the causes of Premature Ejaculation? 

    When diagnosing Premature Ejaculation It is important to determine the type of premature ejaculation one has before you begin to seek solutions. Premature ejaculation can be divided into two (2)  Primary and secondary premature ejaculation. If one has had a problem with premature ejaculation ever since they began having sex, the problem is referred to as a primary premature ejaculation. Secondary premature ejaculation occurs when someone who has had good control previously begins to develop a problem.

     A lot of factors are responsible for premature ejaculation,a whole lot which we won't even be able to bring all to book but will discuss absolutely some major ones. Firstly let's start with anxiety.

Anxiety: The inability to manage the emotions or feelings of pressure during copulation or the nervousness experienced beyond control which often leads to something happening too soon in sex, from the one who is setting the pace,or from the person who defines when sex starts and ends. One may define premature ejaculation based on what you want, what the partner wants, or what you think you or your partner should want. Before one gets battered by the feeling of guilt or desperation for a solution make sure you know and have this perfect  comprehension of you and your partners definition of premature ejaculation,because the fear or phobia you uphold in your head or the strive to make it up to somebody you don't know his or her definition of premature ejaculation or orgasm could leave you in anxiety while trying to make love to that individual hence leaving you helpless and performing even below your own personal score or expectation. 

    Premature ejaculation may also be triggered or aggravated by issues such as guilt, fear, and performance anxiety , especially in the inexperienced partner or with partners new to each other.

    Premature ejaculation could also be caused simply by extreme arousal. 

    Like the saying for every problem there is a solution so are we going to suggest some possible solution for premature ejaculation.
If premature ejaculation is occurring for psychological reasons, a therapist may suggest the squeeze technique. When one feels that they are about to ejaculate during copulation,asking your partner to gently squeeze the end of the penis just below the head for a few moments until the urge goes away may help. Wait at least 30 seconds before continuing foreplay. When reaching the point of ejaculation, ask your partner to perform the squeeze technique again. Keep doing this until you feel that you can copulate without immediate ejaculation.       

    Other methods of avoiding premature ejaculation include masturbation,felatio e.t.c  a few hours before you expect to have sex and concentrating on other methods of sexual pleasure for a certain period of time to remove any pressure one may feel about having sex. Antidepressants and anesthetic cream applied directly to the penis can help some men prolong ejaculation. If the problem has a medical cause, appropriate treatment, such as treating an infection or adjusting thyroid levels, will usually resolve the problem. 

    Drugs may end up being one form of treatment but users will always suffer from negative side effects (which psychological approach don't). Preventing premature ejaculation or  putting a stop to premature ejaculation is possible, but it can require more than a few weeks and a few exercise.

............TO BE CONTINUED................

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