In part one I said people cheat for several reasons, and that's the conflict between the physical and emotional desire.
Anyway, The question you have to ask yourself is which drive is stronger, and which one has a bigger influence in your life. In general, each person is different, but it is generally the physical sexual drive that dominates a person's actions.
Why? I believe this drive is present in the human behavior, men have argued that it is in their biological nature to desire multiple partners, but takes only strength to control self.
We exist with our bodies (physical instinct) the stronger of the two (according to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs) and our minds (emotional needs), whereby these needs interrelate.
in order to contain our sexual drives, we need to ensure that the emotional support toward our partner is strong enough to keep our urges from surfacing else where.
In order to ensure a stable relationship, we need to tend to the reasons why people stray and go humping elsewhere.
1. The Physical Drive.
when we No longer find our partner sexy or attractive or vice versa.
Try to stay in shape or at least maintain the same shape you had when you first met your partner #justsaying
Do not deprive your partner of his or her sexual needs even when you don't "feel like it" trust me, there's always available sex else where if u don't know.
when ur partner wants a head or some humpy style n you say u don't give BJs, hello.. someone out there would gladly give it to him or vice versa.
Try to avoid spending long periods of time away from one another , long separation could lead to temptation. agro/strong urge is no respecter of man.. and please cyber or phone sex can never be like.
No sexual variety.. same special routine can be boring, haba? get adventurous Changing your sexual routine, keep your partner wanting more, instead of thinking of someone else. #justsaying
Less sex, The more sex you have and the more satisfied you are, the less likely you'll go out looking for more.
2. Emotional Needs.
No longer feeling accepted by your partner but desired by another, hmmm. You could be having all the sex in the world, but if you don't feel accepted, respected, desired, adored, loved, or worshipped, you will always be looking for that person who will give you all these things. And when that person comes along, you might be tempted by their warmness and gbam.
when the relationship lacks excitement, boredom sets in. The sex might be fun, physically stimulating, but not emotionally stirred. And the whole mood and companionship becomes boring.. sad.
Take part in exciting activities together in order to keep the thrill in your social life.
communicate to find out what's missing n get it fulfilled.
Just because you're satisfied doesn't mean your partner is. The only way you're going to know this is by communicating with one another. spend time talking about your relationship, both the positives and the negatives. Remember your doctor does not know that there is something wrong with you unless you tell him, so how can your partner help if you don't discuss things?
there is no eternal bliss when a person succumbs to temptation, they might forget what attracted them to their partner in the first place, and lose sight of the chemistry and infatuation they once experienced for that person.
However, focusing on the negative will lead one to perceive that they are so miserable that they seek to fulfill their needs elsewhere.
Cheating is simple, especially when a relationship is more complicated. Cheating usually offers instant gratification, physically and emotionally.
Give your relationship care and attention along with trust and communication will
continuously help both people grow. If you become involved with another person, you owe
it to yourself and your partner to be honest. Creating lie upon lie will only hurt everyone involved. Take a close look at your relationship before seeking happiness with another person.
Also, remember that the new person will require just as much maintenance. No matter how green the grass looks, eventually it will need to be grained, fertilized and trimmed or before you know it, you'll have weeds all over the place. Something to think about the next time that pretty girl at the office smiles at you, boys.
Get it on!
