But Imam Daayiee Abdullah – believed to be the only openly gay imam in America– is proud of his story.
According to Aljazeera, Imam Abdullah was born a Christian, born and raised in Detroit, where his parents were Southern Baptists.
But at age 15, he told his parents he was gay.
At 33, while studying in China, Abdullah converted to Islam, and went on to study the religion in Egypt, Jordan and Syria. But as a gay man in America, he saw that lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender Muslims had unmet spiritual needs, so he decided to become an imam to attend to their needs.
"Sometimes necessity is the mother of invention. And because of the necessity in our community, that's why I came into this particular role," he told America Tonight about his journey.
His first act as an imam was performing funeral rites, Muslim body cleaning ritual for a gay Muslim who died of AIDS.
Pained Abdullah said:
"They had contacted a number of imams, and no one would go and provide him his janazah services. This pained me. I believe every person, no matter if I disagree with you or not, you have the right as a Muslim to have the proper spiritual [rites] and rituals provided for you. And whoever judges you, that will be Allah's decision, not me.
"The beautiful thing about God is that when you change your attitude, and say, 'God, I need some help,' and mean it sincerely, God is always there for you,"
Abdullah serves as the imam and educational director of the Light of Reform Mosque in Washington, D.C. A mosque he helped form more than two years ago, to be a safe space for values and practices that other mosques may eschew.
In his mosque, women and men kneel side-by-side and women are allowed to lead prayers – actions that have sparked controversy even among American Muslims. His mosque's congregants are diverse and represent a wide range of cultures, religious upbringings and sexual orientations.
For its LGBT congregants, the Light of Reform Mosque is a rare safe space. But not all of them are gay. Many are just Muslims looking for a mosque that accepts all kinds.
Not everyone is happy with the mosque though.
Some local imams have refused to greet Abdullah, and many others across the country argue his work performing same-sex marriage is not legitimate, and that he should control his "urges."
But Abdullah is firm in his belief.
"Being an openly gay imam and having been identified as such, I do get a lot of feedback and also kickback, but that's OK," he said. "I think that when people are unfamiliar with things, they tend to have an emotional knee-jerk reaction to it.
Abdullah has hope that the message he is working to spread will continue to resonate: "It is our relationship with God and our relationship with each other that really establishes our faith." Not whether you are gay or straight.
